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BDSM is about perverting social norms and playing with extremes as safely as possible. During the AIDS crisis, queer dungeons and kinksters were instrumental in distributing information about safer sex. At the beginning of the COVID crisis, they did the same. But in time, many of them have given up on that kind of community care.
We pick up where others have left off, developing care and connection through radical play, education, and a few whips and chains.
When we’re building community around creating social opportunities for disabled, queer adults, it’s important to include opportunities for sex, dating, and intimate social experiences. It’s normal for disabled people to be desexualized in our culture and for people to assume that we either don’t need or don’t deserve intimacy.
We deserve safer spaces to indulge in our freakiest desires (just like ableds do, but hotter).
It’s important that everyone who participates in sensual programming is mature and capable of clear and direct communication around consent. Anyone who wishes to be approved for participation in sensual programming can fill out the following form:
Qualifying to attend Educational Sensual Events and Munches and to join Sensual Groups means that a Member has little to no experience with BDSM or sensual programming. We want to make sure that everyone is properly educated and ready before attending play parties.
These Members can participate in Groups with sensual themes unless the Host of the Group decides to require a higher level of approval.
Being approved for all events means that a Member has enough knowledge and experience with BDSM and sensual events to attend Play Parties. These members can also attend Educational Sensual Events and Munches, as well as participate in Groups with sensual themes.
Being approved to Host sensual programming means that a Member has enough knowledge and experience with BDSM and sensual events to organize them. These members can organize Educational Sensual Workshops, Munches, Groups, and Play Parties.
After attending some events at their approved tiers, Members are invited to submit the same vetting form again to seek a higher level of approval.
To enhance safety and oversight, Members must work as a team to Host any Sensual Programming.
Dungeon Monitors are Hosts or volunteers who supervise play spaces to ensure that everyone is playing safely and consensually. They are experienced kinksters whom newbies can turn to for help and guidance during the Event. Dungeon Monitors usually work in shifts so they can spend some time enjoying the Event themselves.
Even though Educational Workshops are not play events, there may still be some hands-on practice or specific skills. If that’s the case, there must be at least one Host or Dungeon Monitor per every 15 attendees.
At Play Parties, the assumption is that attendees will need less hands-on support because they’ve been vetted as more experienced. The role of the Hosts and Dungeon Monitors becomes less one of support and guidance and more one of safety and oversight. In this case, there must be at least one Host or Dungeon Monitor on duty per every 20 attendees.
Like all DT4T Events, Play Parties are masks-required occasions. However, Hosts have the option of establishing a mask-free zone for play that involves mouths, as long as it follows the following requirements:
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