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Our Path Towards Intentional Community

Hello, dear comrades, and welcome to the DisabiliT4T revolution!

My name is Anzi (he/they/we) and I founded DisabiliT4T in the fall of 2023 in response to the ostracization I felt from within the queer community once I became disabled by Long COVID. I realized how many of us there are who feel this way—alienated, alone, and enduring the violence of the medical industrial complex, with insufficient support systems and little access to likeminded community.

DisabiliT4T's objective is to create an intentional community where disabled and chronically ill queers can establish networks of community care. Our spaces center the needs and rights of disabled and chronically ill trans people, especially our rights to have fun and feel socially fulfilled. We also recognize that all of our survival needs must be met before anyone can thrive. Resource-sharing and public health advocacy, and disability justice are inextricable from our mission.

That's a lot of buzzwords, but what will they mean in practice? Let's talk about where DisabiliT4T stands now, where we're heading, and what we're committed to along the way.

Commitment 1: We will build the metaphorical plane before we fly it.

It's enticing, especially when we're impassioned about a cause, to aim high and scale up as quickly as possible to maximize our impact. But, by taking off too soon, we can find ourselves halfway across the ocean before we hit major turbulence and realize we never bothered to figure out how to navigate turbulence safely. I've seen this happen to so many well-intentioned groups. When it does, they'll pause their programming, take time to "reflect," hire transformative justice mediators, and claim to be open to feedback, but they rarely regain the trust of their members, especially those subjected to harm.

DisabiliT4T's metaphorical plane will not take off until we have the knowledge and infrastructure to reach a cruising altitude, safely navigate our flight path, and confidently handle an emergency landing. We won't even start boarding the plane until we can guarantee access to everyone who'd like to come aboard. 

We hope to be ready for take-off by Spring 2024. Here's how we plan to get there.

DisabiliT4T Roadmap October 2023-March 2024. 1. Listening: Needs Assessment Survey: What we learn from the survey will steer everything we do going forward. The data will not be complete until we have at least 100 BIPOC respondents so we can center their feedback in decision-making. 2. DEFINING Governance, Values, and Bylaws: Our organizational structure and bylaws will be defined based on what we learn from the Needs Assessment Survey. Responses from BIPOC and transmisogyny-affected folks will carry the most weight when it comes to decision-making for the collective. 3. IDEATING Programming: With systems in place to sustainably manage our conflict, safety issues, and our entire community’s accessibility needs, we’ll start planning events and projects to move us closer to feeling socially fulfilled. 4. BUILDING Intentional Community: By March 2024, we hope to be ready to officially launch DisabiliT4T as a membership-based intentional community! In the meantime.... 5. GATHERING virtually on a manageable scale: We’re holding off on hosting ongoing community spaces (including a Discord server) until we have the foundation in place to do so safely, accessibly, and responsibly. Until we get there, we’ll hold low-key, one-off gatherings so we can connect and care for one another through our third pandemic winter. 6. PUBLISHING Content on the DT4T BlogWe don’t need to wait for survey data to establish this resource! The Blog will be a place for information, opinions, essays, zines, art, and other contributions by our community members.For now, DisabiliT4T is in soft-launch mode. That means that we aren't facilitating any ongoing community spaces (including a Discord server) nor have we established what membership will look like. It's not for lack of ideas, though. It's because we don't yet have the infrastructure to do this safely and responsibly. I want the collective's needs to dictate how we move forward.

That's why the Needs Assessment Survey is Step One. We launched the 58-question survey in early October to learn as much as we can about the unmet social, access, and survival needs of chronically ill and disabled queers. The survey asks about everything from how you prefer to socialize to what COVID precautions you require, and even what you'd like out of Disabled4Disabled sex and kink spaces!

The data won't be complete until we have at least 100 responses from BIPOC. That way, we'll have enough to meaningfully analyze BIPOC responses separately from non-BIPOC responses so no one's perspective is drowned out. These perspectives will be centered in our decision-making.

As of the date this was published, we have 157 responses total, including 35/100 responses from BIPOC folks.

The most impactful way you can help DisabiliT4T move forward now is to take the Needs Assessment survey and encourage others to do the same.

 

 

An important distinction between DisabiliT4T and other community organizations is that we do not serve the disabled queer community; rather, we are the disabled queer community.

This distinction feels important to name because so far, almost all of this project has been stewarded by me alone. That's both temporary and by design.

A lot of folks come to me with ideas and infectious enthusiasm, eager to contribute to growing this space. These enthusiastic volunteers bring momentum. The challenge is, we're not ready for momentum just yet.
 

First, we need to complete the Needs Assessment Survey. Then, we'll use that data to define our governance structure and bylaws, as well as the core values that will define DT4T's ethos. Sticking with our aviation metaphor, these documents will serve as the airplane manual. (The actual writing process has yet to be defined, but I can promise that it will be transparent, with numerous entry points for open participation.)

For now, my response to all the enthusiastic folks who want to help is:

I can't wait to be ready to grow this community so you have space to nurture these ideas into action, but we're not ready. To help us get to that point, the most impactful thing you can do is encourage the folks in your network to take the Needs Assessment Survey.

This segues nicely into our next commitment...


 

Commitment 2: DisabiliT4T will be a non-hierarchical organization led by the collective. 

When we finally have those guiding principles (the "airplane manual") in writing and plans in place for handling conflict, access issues, and safety concerns as they inevitably arise, we can make way for momentum to build!

From that point on, the stewardship of this organization will intentionally transition from my hands into a collective responsibility. I can't say much more about what that will look like in practice, because it depends so much on the earlier stages in this process, but I can't wait to see what radical ideas y'all come up with to get us there.

In the meantime, let's talk intersectionality.

I mentioned earlier that BIPOC responses will carry the most weight when we analyze the survey and I'd like to expand on that a bit, because all binaries are reductive at best, including the BIPOC/not BIPOC binary.

Intersectionality for DT4T means that we recognize the value of everyone's unique lived experience, while specifically uplifting the perspectives of those whose voices are often silenced. We will always center the needs of our most vulnerable community members in decision-making for the collective, especially those who are multiply-oppressed. This includes:

  • Racialized people, especially Black and Indigenous people
  • Transmisogyny-affected people
  • People facing food and housing insecurity
  • People who are bedbound, homebound, or rely on assistance to complete personal care tasks
  • Sex workers

Community members with more systemic privilege will be expected to show up for the collective accordingly, in whatever way is accessible to them. For example, those with steady income can contribute more financially and those with mental or physical capacity can contribute through labor. If you are under-resourced and don't have much to contribute, the DT4T community will still work to meet your needs with no expectation of reciprocity. That's what intentional community is about.

Marx summed it up pretty nicely: From each according to their ability, to each according to their need.

And lastly...


 

Commitment 3: DisabiliT4T will always be radically transparent and forthcoming.

This is already an established practice at DisabiliT4T. You can look at our ledger right now and see every donation that's come in and where every penny has been spent. This document will be updated as frequently as spoons allow, at minimum once per month. You can also check out all the feedback we've received from each of the events we've done so far, anonymized and compiled here.

During this soft-launch phase, the responsibility is on me to maintain this transparency, and I ask all of you to hold me accountable. Please reach out any time with your comments, suggestions, concerns, and questions. You can contact me on Instagram @disabiliT4T or at disabiliT4T@gmail.com.

You can also share feedback anonymously, any time, via the General Feedback Form linked below. Everything submitted there will be included in the public document linked above.

 

That about sums it up for now. We've got a lot of work to do and even more to look forward to. Let's get to it.

With love, gratitude, and hope,
Anzi